My parents think I’m a failer at life?
In 9th grade I went to a high school where none of my friends went to. I got really depressed and did bad in school. In 10th grade I was transferred to the school where all of my friends were at, but they ended up screwing me over, and I did bad in school again.
11th grade was my best year, but I still hated school, so I decided to graduate school early by taking classes at community college.
I took 4 classes in the fall semester, which just ended, and I struggled. I’ll be lucky if I get a 2.0 GPA. Anyway, I missed the current student times to register for spring semester classes, and now my parents are mad and think that they just should have kept me in the school I was at in 9th grade, and let me just deal with my problems. Tonight my mom was talking to my dad on the phone, and she was saying that she’ll just have to deal with me having a minimum wage job for the rest of my life(assuming I’ll continue to do bad in college and drop out).
I’m really mad and hurt right now. What can I do?
Note: I did not graduate high school yet. I am still a senior and won’t be 18 until next month. And tomorrow I’m gonna try to sign up for classes online.
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Prove her/them wrong!!!!!!!! Your life is what you make of it..I could tell you horrific things my brothers and I grew up with that would cause you to have nightmares..But, you can’t allow your past to destroy your future. Don’t be a victim, be a survivor!!!!!!! No matter how bad things seems, there are many people who have it worse and ONLY you have control with what you do with your life!!!!!!!! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
Also, you could be suffering from depression and may need help with that. It is a real illness, but you need to seek help for it. There are many things that can cause you not to be able to concentrate on your studies..My son and I have allergies to many foods..Milk, wheat, corn, yeast, rice, potatoes, apples, and some affect us more severe than others. Someone suggested learning disabilities, check into that as well. Even environmental allergies can affect how you concentrate. My son and I can’t starve to death, but we know, we have to eat what we are allergic to in moderation. Being that most of it is in everything, the ones that affect us the most, we avoid when we are doing important things..like my son’s school work. He is also doing online school. Long story.. You will find your purpose in life, I did..and so do many others. TAKE CARE!!!!!!!! Julia
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amhow about pushing yourself by studying and getting good grades. find a career your interested in and pays good and learn it P.S. GOD LOVES YOU
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amoh, just wait, your in age when your parents don’t like you.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amWow. Uh. That’s depressing.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amFirst of all, you need to accept responsibility that you did bad.
Second of all, you need to focus on school. That is if you’re planning on graduating.
You need to realize your parents are just worried, and they want you to succeed.
Obviously you’re hurt and angry, but you can’t let your hurt or anger control you.
I bet ranting and raving helped a little, eh?
my mom told me this one day. that im a looser. not in those words. it really hurt. since that day i dont care about my mom and cant say i love her anymore because honestly i dont. i would just move on and concentrate on yourself. and only do things for yourself. it seems you are out of allys
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amDont get worried about these things. Life has many ups and downs, Just make a list , plan of what ur going to do, at times parents, friends and others whom u know may get pissed off at u or even more mad that they hurt ur feelings but u try improving – life has many lessons, but learn form ur mistakes. Relax and be calm, concentrate on wat ur going to do next. and do it well. make them appreciate for wat u become in the future. so work towards ur future – past is dead.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amyou’ve had a very rough road I can see. You have to stand back and look at it and ask yourself this: was it my fault? or was it out of my control.
For me personally, I grew up all through school in gifted programs and I saw the potential in myself. There were times where I felt I just wanted to say "screw it" and give up all this hard work. But in the end I tried my best and left high school with a 3.8 gpa and am in college now pursuing a engineering and mathematics degree.
For you, the great thing is that community college will always be there, even if you do work part time. You just have to put in the time and effort to get a degree in SOMETHING. A degree really is the key to future success (without random things happening like winning the lottery)
but start off graduating high school first, getting a diploma is HUGE, it basically is essential to life nowadays, you won’t get anywhere without it.
Without the support from your parents must be very tough, You must be a pretty strong girl to make it through all these years without support from them. You have to be your own person now, TAKE CONTROL of your life. Plan ahead, get things done and if you put in your best effort then there is no looking back.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amQuit blaming other people for your problems.
I understand that you are young and "depressed" and it seems like the whole world is against you, but you need to own up for your own mistakes. YOU failed at school. You let "depression" or sadness ruin your first year, then your friends ruin your second and now you’re just throwing away the rest of it.
What can you do? FINISH SCHOOL. Do whatever you can to finish. If you are taking classes at a community college, try a study skills class as well. It will help you become more efficient with your time and you’ll pick up skills needed to make things a little easier for you. Quit thinking of school as something you HAVE to do and try to make it something you want to do. I work with indigent people for a living, there are a ton of people out there who have dropped out of school and just have not been able to get on their feet since. If you don’t think traditional college is for you, find a trade school. Or take some interesting classes (sociology, anthropology, literature, etc…) to start off with.
Above all, don’t worry about what your parents think at this moment. I guarantee you that they do not think that you are a failure. They think that they’ve failed you. You need to own up to your past mistakes, brush off outside influence and finish school. By any means necessary.
Best of luck to you!
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amWell, your parents want the best for you, and they do not know how to solve it because it seems difficult to them. Hence, instead of trying to help you, they get mad at you because they believe you have become a "failure" at life. Trust me i have failed gillion of times dude, i ended up failing like 4 of my classes in my 6th-8th grade year. Had a GPA of a 1.7 or something… My parents totally hated that and insulted me… But i soon came to realize that they did that because all they wanted for me was to succeed. No im a senior in High School And my GPA is 3.9. You are not a "failure at life" In fact you are showing that you care, which proves how much you want to straighten up your life. Either way, continue to stick to your goals, sign up for your classes, and try to make your parents proud. Even if they are not there for you, because my parents weren’t =(… Good luck dude!
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amYou are not a failure. I think you are courageous to continue trying despite all the adversities and lack of emotional support. Good luck. You will graduate and succeed in life because you care.
Your parents feel they have failed: continue on with school and eventually you’ll demonstrate that they have succeeded with you.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amhi, sorry you feel like crap..
i think you should go on with the hopes of a bright future regardless of what your "non-psychic" mother thinks or says.. i know it’s easier said than done, believe me i went through the exact same thing.. anywho, do what you have to do and when you feel ready confront your parents and explain that they’re acting like pricks and that this is a time when you need support not short comings
do as good as you can at your own pace
besides.. even if you do get a minimum wage job
it’s a job none the less.. or would they rather have an unemployed adult to take care of?
hope everything works out! good luck!
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amHave you ever been tested for learning disabilities? If not, I suggest you do so. It’s not just because you wrote "failer" instead of "failure," although that’s part of it, but because it might explain at least some of your struggles.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amYou seem to believe that your ninth and tenth grade struggles were due to your friends, and eleventh grade problems were due to your hating school. But I wonder about that. Friends don’t make or break you in classes, you do. And maybe you hated school because it was harder for you due to a disability. Missing school registration can be a symptom of a problem, too.
I’m sorry your mother said that about you, and I know it hurts. Remember that she can’t foretell the future. And you probably heard her when she was at a low point and not necessarily when she was fully reasonable. Ignore her comment. I think she’s mistaken. It sounds like you need some guidance and extra help. I don’t believe you’ll become a failure.
Good for you for wanting to sign up for classes online. Now take it a step further and ask your school guidance counselor about learning disabilities. I knew someone who did that and it turned his life around. I wish you lots of luck and success!
At your age, you hate your parents, and you always assume your parents hate you. Not true. I’m sure they see the potential you have, and are disappointed you’re not exactly using it. Your mom was probably talking it over with your dad before they came to you about the situation, and you caught her at an awkward point in their conversation. I’d sit them down and have a heart-to-heart with them. And, perhaps you’ve got a few things about yourself and your study habits that you can improve on…I don’t know you personally, so I can’t say. But you need to talk it over with your parents before getting bent completely out of shape about it. You do need to realize that school isn’t about friends. It’s about education. Friends are really nothing but a bonus. From your post, you seem like an intelligent person. You just need to apply it.
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 amIgnore her crap! Believe that you can do it and believe that you can graduate!
My mom would ALWAYS say crap about me that I am not met to graduate and I am most likely not going to have a future for myself.
Boy, was she wrong. I graduated high school and am now in college. Now she changes her mind and she is "proud" of me (haha yeah right.)
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 am1] do you mean ‘failure’?
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 am2] notice everything on here is "someone else’s fault".
Start being responsible for YOUR actions and results, and you will do better in school and the rest of your life.
3] Your parents are disappointed – they allowed you to switch schools; go to commumity college, and you still haven’t done well.
4] Disappointment frequently shows up as anger; and we say things we regret.
5] you are probably really mad at yourself. Get over it.
6] Set up a homework/study schedule, and follow it.
Tell yourself this over and over: You are NOT a failure at life. You are good at many things and you have a purpose. You can do whatever you put your mind to. It’s really chiché and it can sound cheesy, but you need confidence if you are going to take control of your life and make changes. Your mother is very discouraging and those are not words any mother should be saying. But, don’t let it get to you. Prove her wrong! Make a plan and set some goals and follow through. Get some help from a guidance counsellor or someone close that you trust and respect. They can really pull you through hard times and help you plan your future. And remember: you are not a failure at life. You will succeed. You just need to have a positive mindset and you can make it.
Good luck
December 22nd, 2009 at 9:26 am