Why would my father hate African Americans so much?
I’m 18 years old high school senior and I’m starting to send applications to bunch of in-state colleges and universities. Today during the dinner my father made it clear that I better not go to "black school", where at least 30% of students are African Americans. Is he kidding? 30% African Americans = African Americans school? And why would it matter anyways, they are university students, not some drunken and broken ghettos.
My big brother got a letter from 95% African Americans university when he was a high school senior, and it was a decent school, in the top five social science universities/colleges in the state, he was strongly willing to go, but my father said HELL NO. So he’s going to community college instead, and I know he was very frustrated but couldn’t help it because he had no money. I’m already frustrated too, I just wish I had money so I can run away from him and pursue any type of lifestyle I want.
And not only for this college matters, but he generally HATES African Americans, you won’t imagine what kind of words are coming out of his mouth about them. He even willingly calls them N. I’m disgusted. Hey, I love my father for hard work and devotion for his family, etc., but this is getting way out of hand.
What should I do?
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Maybe your father grew up in an area where it was majorly a white community. Because of this, your father may only know what he’s seen of African-Americans on television, or via newspaper. Thus, he may not know what kind of people African-Americans are.
My father never met a black man until he was sixteen, because he lived in a majorly white community. My grandfather resorted to calling blacks "boys," while my grandmother called them "juniors." It’s demeaning, yes, but my grandparents never knew blacks, because there aren’t too many blacks where they lived. This could be a major reason why your father could be racist, and disallowing you and your brother from going to "African-American schools".
As far as what you should do, you just have to stand up to your father, and tell him you want to go where you want to go, and it’s really not up to him where you should go to college. Confront him, as hard as it may be, and tell him how you feel. That’s the best approach. Be honest, but don’t let the conversation get out of hand.
Best of luck, and I wish you happiness wherever you end up in college.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amyour father is a racist.
call the cops saying he got drunk and said he was going to kill all african americans.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amStand up for what is right.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amWhatt?
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amThat’s racist.
He probably thinks that they’re a "bad influence" or something along that line..
Try to convince him that he’s being ignorant to other opportunities.
And should open his eyes.
Hope this helps(:
Tell ur dad to go phuck himself.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amWow. Well he seems pretty ignorant (no offence). And 30% of african americans in a school isn’t the majority, so why would he care? And he probably thinks they are a ‘bad influence’, so if you don’t believe in what he believes, just keep it to yourself and go to the college YOU want to go to. No offence (again), but he really needs to get a life. I bet Barack Obama went to a better college than he did. And look at where he is now. Your dad seriouslly needs a reality check.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amsay black instead of african american next time to make it more easy to follow im getting dizzy. and your racist dad was brought up to listen to everything your racist grandpa says without question
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amDoes he know who our new President is?
No offense, but he needs a reality check.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amWell you’re dad is obviously racist, and that’s sad.
You’re 18 so you can go to whatever school you want to go to, although if you’re dad is paying, that might be an issue. Just don’t even bother telling him the demographics of the school and if he asks just lie about it (it’s sad that you would have to do that).Try to save up as much money as you can to pay for the college you want to go to. You could TRY to tell your dad that he’s wrong, like sit down and talk to him about it, but racists are usually very ignorant people who will never learn. Your dad was raised that way so it would be hard to change him.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amYour father needs to get a life. Life is too short to be so consumed with hate.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amwow that is one racist dad..c’mon he has to face reality univ. like USC, Texas, Florida, and all the good ones has over 30% african american population, man i dont know what to say, that is just plain wrong
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amyou again still haven’t a hobby huh
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amhe stupid
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amwell, i think you need to ask your father this question. only he would know why he doesn’t like black people. it could be something that happened in his past, or something he learned from his father. either way, you should ask him. and it’s terrible what he made your brother do.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amTell your father all black people are not hoodlum.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amI absolutely feel the same way your father does. I very much dislike black culture and prefer to be as far away from it as possible. You are being very naive to pretend there is not a difference in many ways between a black and a white school. Everyones dad talks about blacks that way. Get real.
People of different races are not the same. We should treat them all well, but ignoring legitimate differences between races and cultures is wrong.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amI can completely understand because some members of my family are the same way but you have to just stand up for what you know is right. You know that black, white, Chinese, Japanese, whatever skin colored people are all the same and that we should be created equal so just speak your mind. Sometimes its better to show them how ignorant they are acting, I mean come on, its 2008!!!! People need to stop being so racist and start growing up a little!
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amhe needs a good slap…try and talk to him i wish i could give you more advice
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amNext time just blurt out "knock that racist sh*t off!", maybe it will embarrass him. Sometimes older generations just don’t get it. Maybe he got his a s s kicked once by a black dude and now hates all blacks. Who knows…
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amoh come on! THIS IS A FREE COUNTRY! WHO WANTS TO BE HATED?
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amAsk him right out, what does he have against them? It may be that at one time they ganged up on him as they did to me. Not one on one, but a gang against one.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amBreak the cycle. You have to put up with our father, but you can, as an adult, keep him at arms length. If you require your father’s financial support in college, you may have to overlook this for the time being .
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amBut when you have graduated, enter the work force and begin your own social life, BREAK THE CYCLE!
Get to know an African American person.
Bring em’ over for dinner
Worked for my friend
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amYou are 18 years old and should be able to make your own choices however, if your parents are helping you pay for college as bad as it is that your father is a racist, I think that you need to find a good college that meets his criteria either that or pay for your own college. Just because you follow his wishes does not mean that you agree with his reasoning. Getting an education is what is most important. I am not sure you will find a college that does not have a diverse population, even the community college. So, feel fortunate that you are not a racist and do what you can for now to get yourself and education and financially set so that you won’t be under his ignorant narrow minded control forever.(I know you love your dad but his views are this) Good Luck
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amyou should start hanging out with allot of african american people and even date someone black get her pregnant then he has to accept them
or
you can tell him off but still find somewhere to go to college at that meets his standards
he shouldn’t eat bab-b-que because black people (slaves) started it
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amMy father is the same way. I’m glad you have brought this to attention. I have gone to purely "white schools" my entire life. Being in a military family and moving a lot, that is what my parents look at when we move into new areas. I never thought anything of it, until this year. I just recently moved into Washington DC area and there are still limited blacks in my school, but this year there was a change. I met the most amazing man from Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Because of everything he has gone through, he has the most amazing appreciation for everything. He always has a smile on his face, and always can put a smile on mine. I love this man with my entire heart and I respect him to no extent.
Well, my parents already hate him. Have they met him? No. They have the assumptions he’s a thug. They figure his pants are low and his neck is covered with stolen jewelery.
I’ve come to understand this is the way he was raised, along with my mother. But I refuse to be raised this way. I am not a shallow person and I have love for all cultures, races, religions, and countries. For standing up to both of my parents, they found respect in me. They still do not agree with me to this day, but they have learned to be slightly more open-minded. I understand completely where you’re coming from, but do not allow for your father to tell you where to recieve your education from. This is your future now. This is your money. Your life.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amHe absolutely is a racist and he is not just a racist but have some problem with his mentality. Now, you have no money but he has.that is why you cant gainst with he, your big brother is the truth.
November 8th, 2009 at 11:50 amif you have money or borrow some from somebody or the bank, then you can do what you want to do. if that is difficult for you.you must to try yourself to persuade him, or you can persuade your ant or other kindred to persuade him. you loved your father and so he love you too.
if you tell him that this school would be better for you, and this is important for your future. you want a good future, so does your father. i tthink that your father not a bad man who is not care his daughter’s life.
what about your mother, that sound you have voice in your home.
good luck for you,
if your father is love you much, he will be give up .