what is wrong with me? I have so much FEAR!?
I AM 26 MARRIED AND WORKING MOTHER…. I AM COMPLETELY PARANOID AT ALL TIMES. We have an alarm system, burglar bars, two huge german shepards, and security light fixtures in ever corner of the house.. i still dont feel safe.. every time i leave the house i check the doors and all windows more than 4 times and when i caome back i check every single room, closet , bath room , under every bed, i watch tv on mute with the closed caption so i can hear any strange noise…. i cant be home alone with out felling anxious. WHat can i do I’ve tried therapy and it did not work, medication for anxiety im was still full of fear? My son sleeps in the same room because im petrified that someone might break in and take him, i’ve been TTC for a week and im eating up with fear of not being able to …..what can possibly be causing this? the doctors ive seen dosen’t seem to understand the level of paranoia i have and always want to medicate, i can’t be on meds and fully function as a mother and work….
thanx for all your comments
i did want to add that is a good neighbor hood and the house is newly built by us, theres not much houses around, many empty lots, i feel like its turning into paranoia, im overprotective with my son and im even afraid that the dogs might want to bite him or eat him since hes so small… its not being robbed that scares me is the felling that someone might hurt me or my son… i dont want any medication at all… i want to try something natural, iv e tried praying but when im that sate i can hardly think rational and i forget the words tothe prayers.. if there is anyone home with me like my husb or mom anyone im ok still sensitive to everything like noises but not as afraid…
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If you don’t want meds, try finding a holistic therapist who uses herbs and behavioral modification. You do need to do something because you don’t want your son to learn to be so fearful of life (& he will learn this by seeing your behavior). Good luck!
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pmIt could be a number of things, including anxiety and OCD. Please see your doctor again.
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pmDo you live in a bad neighborhood?
Think about it this way. If you live in a nice neighborhood and you’re having this problem, imagine how you’d be if u lived in a ghetto bad area.
I think you should go to a counselor, not therapy, but a counselor or maybe life coach?
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pmwell you obviously havne’t found the right medication or the right psychiatrist. It took me a long time to find the right one, the doctor I see is pretty hardcore at getting you to face your fears but he is good. I have been seeing him for a couple years now and I am still only moving in baby steps, I have different fears then you, but a fear is a fear. Bascially his philosphy is, you have to face your fear. Also if what you might be scared of more then anything is the feeling you get not the actual act of being home alone or being robbed but of the way it makes your body feel. How many times have you been robbed or kidnapped for that matter, I will asume none. We all have worry and fear and its normal cause like if a Bear is chasing you, you gotta know OMG i have to run I am scared, the fear tells you to run and not stay and get attacked, fear is also good if their is a fire in your home, helps you to react to it, but if your having fear without the actual cause then of course you know this is a problem. Just try to do the opposite of what your anxiety is telling you to do. For instance you say your son sleeps in the same room with you, put him in his own room,, next night try not to check the doors and locks so much do it once then leave go to bed. Remember its the fear your fearing and the feeling you get, feelings can’t hurt you and if u don’t feed into them they will go away. My doctor also describes it like, okay there are lots of times in life when you don’t feel like donig something or being somewhere, like in school for instance we all remember times of sitting in class being bored to tears and wanting desperatly to just jump up and leave, well that was a feeling, we didn’t act on it, it didn’t kill us even if we felt the boredom would, it was simply a feeling, no different then the feeling of anxiety. Anxiety is a feeling. I hope I am explaining this right. I am still working on my anxiety (sorry he actually told me I am not aloud to refer to anxiety as "mine") so I am still working on anxiety issuse
. Its quite the process, goodluck.
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pmI know what you’re going through except I didn’t have the money to go as far as you have with the security and all that. I’m 24 and for a while I was at home for a week at a time sometimes with my husband working out of town and our baby as my only company. We lived in an old house with bad locks and no security. I was afraid of every noise and scared if a bug flew by. I can only tell you what worked for me, and it was prayer and faith that what I believe in is bigger than what was causing the fear. It was hard! But I live free from fear now! Contact me.
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pmI was in the same perdicament but not 2 that extent… I am 19 and would cry in my mothers arms because no one understood how paranoid I was of sexual predators and dying a horrific brutal death… I even began to think my ex bf of 4 yrs was out to kill me…
This is what I did… in psychology (I’m not a psychologist) I learned about how every human needs to satisfy their "spiritual side" and when we do that is a form of meditation… because soooo many thought come in and out of our conscious… when we aren’t thinking about them they are stored in our sub-conscious which is like a trash can for our thoughts…. meditation "takes out the trash"…. without some form of releasing these sub-conscious thoughts they sit there and come back into your conscious quite often… pray if you believe in a higher power… ask for protection and have faith and hope… if ur not religious do some yoga… it really works!!
November 1st, 2009 at 9:28 pm